Testimonies: Coping with an alchoholic spouse
Addiction has many affects not only the addict but also their families. As the wife of an addict is very difficult to manage our lives, sometimes. Coming from a religious context in which alcohol has never been introduced, I was surprised when I met my husband and he informed me that he was in rehab. Rehabilitation? What is this rehabilitation of the speaker? I ignored her needs and thought only of my own. I wanted to go out with me and order a bottle of wine when we went to a fancy dinner. I do not want to be alone at the table drinking an alcoholic beverage, as he insisted to do the same. I was the cause of his relapse and I did not even know. Why not "understand" how anyone could stop me and encouraged him to drink everyday.
sorry that a glass of wine has led to a downward spiral which lasted six months and finally reached a point in a terrifying night. Fainted and I was afraid. Was not him. It was as if someone had taken his body and mind. The worst thing was that he remembered nothing of this morning, but it is a night that never forget.
that terrible night has caused my husband to get back to rebuilding their lives and decide to be sober. It 'been two years sober and I could not be prouder. I learned not to drink before him and not to express their interest. He does not need that he needs my support, my understanding and my commitment that I will stand by his side and help him overcome
Now this.
discourage any use of alcohol and drugs and the support of AA. It is still difficult to have a glass of wine or a beer together on the beach with him, but his health is more important than any alcoholic beverage in there.
adapt to this lifestyle has taken a certain time, and recognize and trying to understand the reasons for his decision was problematic, but everything is worth it. My husband without alcohol and drugs is the husband I always dreamed of and not change for anyone in world.
still fighting and we still have challenges to overcome but we are doing together. I know that every time something unpleasant happens to want to resort back to their old methods and flight. All I can do is advise against taking the wrong decision. If you are dealing with someone in your family or are in a relationship with an addict must continue fasting. Read books, talk to someone, do a Google search and get all the knowledge you can about the disease. You can not fight it is helpful if you do not understand what you're doing against.
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